Day 13 - Self-Care Choose Your Own Adventure
Updated: Nov 22
How It Works
30-Day "Choose Your Own Adventure" Self-Care Challenge where each day you choose between nurturing your inner Gremlin (embracing chaos, fun, and breaking rules) and being your Higher Self (grounded, nurturing, and wise).
This balance will help you explore both sides of your self-care needs, from lighthearted fun to deeper reflection.
Day 13: Tame or Untame Your Space
Gremlin Choice:
Leave the Mess: Leave your space messy for the day. Let the chaos build around you and revel in the fact that you don’t have to clean it right now. Embrace the temporary rebellion!
Higher Self Choice:
Create Order:
of your space—your desk, your bed, or a corner of your room. Allow yourself to feel peaceful in the simplicity and order you’ve created.
What did you decide today?
What exactly is true self-care
True self-care goes beyond surface-level activities and is more about consistently meeting your genuine needs, setting boundaries, and taking steps toward your well-being in a deep and meaningful way.
More on:
Self-abandonment occurs when you neglect your own needs, feelings, and values in favor of pleasing others or conforming to external expectations.
Feeling Unworthy
Experiencing a persistent sense of unworthiness or inadequacy, believing you don’t deserve care or attention.
This one feels a bit unfair due to trauma. There's a certain level of unworthiness that can be worked on for years through self-help and therapy and still it's hard to get to the bottom of (I'm speaking from my own life here). And do I have a feeling of unworthiness, at times, absolutely. If you catch me on an off day, ohhh my goodness, it is bad. It is a deep, core wound that I have worked on for three years. It is getting lighter, literally as I type this! Just the act of typing this is my working with my self-love. It's a strange wound but it is something that I am not going to abandon.
I hope you won't either.
Counteracting self-abandonment is about strengthening your connection to yourself and honoring your needs. Here are some strategies to help rebuild self-trust, reconnect with your inner voice, and practice self-acceptance and support:
Build Self-Compassion
Catch and reframe critical self-talk. When you notice self-judgment creeping in, replace it with understanding and kindness.
Imagine how you’d support a close friend, and practice giving yourself that same gentleness. Self-compassion makes it easier to prioritize your needs and value your feelings.
Comments